There is a very fine line between subtly suggesting clothing pieces that you think would look awesome in your boyfriend’s wardrobe and outright trying to change him and his style. While it may be tempting to buy him an entirely girlfriend-approved closet, this almost always backfires for a number of reasons.
For starters, his style is his own. It showcases his personality and it makes him comfortable. You don’t want to change who he is at his core, do you? So, believe it or not, there is a right and a wrong way to go about giving your boyfriend or husband a style makeover that will make you proud to show him off.
It’s all about technique. Here, we will go over a few tips that promise to help you take your boyfriend or husband from fashion-don’t to fashionable in no time.
Positive reinforcement DOES work.
The guy in your life does care about you, or else you wouldn’t even be together. Because he cares, he wants to make you happy. Instead of making him feel defensive and self conscious by making fun of the clothes that you hate, take a positive approach instead. Whenever he wears something that you think looks great on him, make sure that you let him know.
Not only will this boost his self esteem, but it will make him want to wear these significant other-approved clothing items more often because he correlates them with your happiness and approval.
Prove that fashion DOES NOT break the budget.
Many men believe that being fashionable also means spending thousands of dollars on clothes. Movies, tv shows, and pop culture all teach them that women constantly go over budget for that new pair of shoes or fad pair of pants.
Prove to him that this isn’t the case by showing him some fashionable, but budget friendly options. Stores like H&M have proven time and time again to create quality product for half the price of some other, more costly retailers.
A $25 haircut can go a long way for improving your guy’s look.
Do NOT force him into it.
No one likes being told what to do. A prideful man definitely doesn’t like being told what to do, especially when he takes it as criticism. If you really do want to go about giving your man a style makeover, there is a right and a wrong way to go about it.
Forcing him into it and throwing away all of his favorite articles of clothing is absolutely 100% NOT how you go about doing it. Not only will you put him on the defensive right off the bat, but chances are that he’ll be so frustrated that he won’t even allow himself to enjoy anything about the experience. You don’t want him to end up resenting you, but that is exactly what will happen if you force him into something that he isn’t ready for. Baby steps, guys.
Accept that these things DO take time.
You’re not going to go into his closet while he’s sleeping in on a Saturday morning and replace all of his clothes with more fashionable choices. This is going to be a tedious, sometimes frustrating process. You are going to have to know what battles are worth fighting and which ones you need to toss aside.
If he’s attached to an article of clothing that you absolutely despise, you’re probably going to have to let him keep it. Start taking him shopping with you and subtly point out things that you think would look great on him. Encourage him to try clothes on so he isn’t simply a purse holder. Ask him his opinion on things so you can include his personal style into your makeover. Whatever you do, just make sure that he doesn’t get lost somewhere along the way. This is about him, after all, not you.